The Universe Always Has Your Back (and sometimes that's terrifying)
Do you ever feel like maybe the Universe has forgotten about you? Nothing seems to be working, and everything seems to feel like an uphill battle.
Some of the biggest things I hear from people are:
“What if my words aren’t so positive?”
“What if I’m being negative and emotional?”
“What if my blank canvas isn’t so white?”
“What if I took a cold on?”
What if, what if, what if!
In a world full of “what if’s” it’s amazing how the Universe works. You just never know what the universe is going to bring you, right?
I want to you listen up closely:
If you are the whole of your Universe; if you are the creator of your world; if you are the manifestor of your destiny, that truly means you have to be accountable for the whole of your Universe. And being accountable for all of it means being accountable for each and every thing you are putting out to the Universe, because it does create.
I know, it sounds overwhelming. I think the hardest part of grasping this is because the Universe is enormous, and we are this little tiny speck within that. So many times it’s hard for us to believe that our tiny speck of a life could have a big impact.
I remember somebody telling me a long time ago, “Believe in yourself and others will believe in you also.”
That was really hard for me to grab hold of because I was in a not very good relationship. I was surrounded by some very negative people and basically all I did was cry. I truly did not see my lot in life as fair. I could plainly see that people out there had better luck than me and better opportunities than me. They were just better than me.
But at that time, my Universe really did suck.
So telling me, “The Universe has your back,” was not so comforting to hear.
In the back of the darkest recesses of my mind, I still remember the voice of a little woman with red hair, saying to me, “You are the cause and effect of your entire life, and if you don’t like it, then you’re the only one who can change it. Shit or get off the pot.” I was angry at first when she said that to me. I was paying to attend a motivational class and it was a little insulting to believe I was to blame for this life, for my abusive relationship, for all my woes. But she pointed out to me something very fragile. She asked me, “Why do you stay?” And you know, I really could not give her a solid answer as to why. My excuses were, “Nobody else would want me,” or “I’m staying for my kids.” But the truth was I was in a bad relationship, and staying for all the wrong reasons. I was scared, and taking any step out of it seemed impossible.
I felt alone, like no one could possibly know how I was feeling.
I didn’t talk about it, I just felt it. I truly felt trapped in my Universe—which wasn’t beautiful like everyone else in this class was saying. It was easy to get lost in my mind’s story about how “I can’t, won’t, wouldn’t,” because it was too big, too hard, or too much.
Now this little red-headed woman always wanted a hug every time I showed up for class. I thought it was a little weird. I’m not much of a hugger. But you know, I could begin to see the madness of her wanting to hug everybody. It was her way of breaking us all down, letting someone in. But of course, I didn’t see it at the time. I just thought it was weird.
Eventually I started looking forward to the fucking hugs.
How weird is that? It was working. The Evil red-headed lady was wearing me down. But in truth, she was an incredibly positive, insightful mentor and teacher that taught me I had to let the Universe in. I had to close that gap.
I realized I had to find people of like-mind. I had to surround myself with people who would support me and the new positive attitude I was learning. And it was amazing how the Universe was beginning to bring those people to me, because I was beginning to close the gap. I learned that the people around me had to be willing to support my passions and my beliefs.
So as I was working to cultivate these relationships with the Universe, other people, and myself, I learned that the Universe really does not decide completely for me. My job is to say the “what” and the “why,” and the Universe gets to determine the “who,” the “when,” and the “where.” It’s kind of like the Universe is taking the load off of my shoulders a little bit, and leaving me with the easy parts to figure out—just the what and the why. In all honesty, I sucked the most when I was trying to figure out the who, the where and the when—I was always with the wrong person, at the wrong time, at the wrong place.
The one comforting thing I have learned is that the Universe does have your back in a weird kind of way.
The Universe hears your cries, just not always how you think it should.
I remember praying, pleading, begging for help from the Universe one time when my friend and I were picked up by the police for drinking as teenagers. The world was not happening the way I wanted it to at all. Later I found out what a blessing this was. If we hadn’t been picked up by the police, the friend I was with would have died from alcohol poisoning. If we hadn’t gotten to the hospital when we did, she could have died. In the end, it ended up being a good thing.
One thing I have learned from this experience, and so many others is that even when things seemed horrible, it could have been a way worse outcome.
And maybe, just maybe, this is the universe’s way of giving me a better outcome than what could have been. I may not know the where, when, or how, but I have to learn to trust in the universe.
In another example, I was driving down the highway in the right-hand lane where all the entrances and exits are. The car next to me was side by side. Someone came down off an entrance ramp really slow, so I had to slow down. “What the heck!? You’re driving too slow!” I tried to get around this little Gremlin of a car with the license plate, “GGG100”, and I couldn’t. When we came around the curve I saw that the car I had been driving next to had driven right into a semi-truck. I can tell you, had I not been slowed down by that little car, I would have been in that accident too. Thank goodness that Gremlin slowed me down. I tell you, I’ll never forget it. It showed me that sometimes when we’re in a hurry, or in a rush, the Universe has a way of slowing us down. I always ask the Universe or One True Light Consciousness for protection, and because of that, I believe it creates sort of a soft spot in the Universe.
I’m not sure if this rings true to you, and that’s okay. People always tell you, “Just take that leap of faith.”
But my advice is, don’t leap until you’re really ready.
The Universe has a way of easing you into leaping.
So with this in mind, here’s some comforting reminders that will enable you to remember how the Universe has your back:
1. A simple way to look at it: Think of all the times something has worked out unexpectedly. It can be as easy as when you realize you don’t have enough money to get something and a good Samaritan offers you the change, or you find a $20 bill on the ground, or you open up a pocket and find money you had totally forgotten about, that’s the Universe having your back.
2. When you’re in a hurry to get somewhere, and it seems like everything gets in the way of reaching that destination, remind yourself to be grateful. You never know what you may have avoided by not getting there on time.
3. Remember that when one door closes, another one always opens, or a window flies open. Hence, the Universe handed you a new opportunity.
My best advice to you is to try to find the gift in situations that seem hard, always ask the Universe for help, and when the Universe hands you an opportunity, take it.