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Don’t Rush in Dating! (You Are Worth Waiting For)


I think the biggest hurdle people face in dating is time.

Most people, I’ve noticed, think that the clock is ticking, or say, “I’m not as young as I used to be,” or “There’s not as many to pick from.” People give time so much energy that it begins to create a hurry. We feel like, “I’ve gotta find that perfect mate, and jump into the sack,” or rather they jump right back into the emotional baggage. I call that “jumping into the emotional sac,” not necessarily the bed sack. Maybe we’re trying to fill an emotional void or figure out how to fill some type of empty nest. Maybe we’ve just had a bad relationship, and now we’re moving on. Whatever it is, in the world of dating… we’re searching. But for what?

To be honest I think a lot of the time, for both men or women, as soon as there’s an interest (even if it’s not a big spark with your heart flipping), even just a little bit of a ping, we tend to latch on. Because there’s that same fear, that desperation, that “There’s not enough out there” mentality.

Time ends up being the stealer of true, genuine relationships.

Because of this, I think we’ve forgotten what dating really is. Most of us communicate by phone so there’s less direct conversation with people. Instead, there’s social media. It moves us further and further away from actual quality moments together.

In my experience, if you really care about somebody, and there’s a true connection… you don’t need to rush. You don’t need to hurry. If you really love someone, you’re going to take your time getting to know them, to understand them, and even to find those same interests (without the internet, without your cellphone). Have a real face to face connection.


Think about it, what happens when you rush?

We focus on all the wrong things! We get distracted, lost, maybe get into an accident, we may even get hurt (or hurt someone else).