Student: What do you do when you feel like you have this whole big plan and the world is just against you?

Soulaire: You mean like this week for me? I had something very similar and I had planned to do all these recordings and get all this stuff done and it didn’t happen. I could have sat here and beat myself up and think I’m a horrible person because I didn’t make time for it but instead, I realized did I look at all the things that I got done as part of my day anyway because it would have to have been done. If it wasn’t done today, it would have reflected tomorrow. If it’s not done tomorrow, it’s reflected the next day. And so, what I have to do is kind of come back to…what’s important to me is my spiritual journey, what’s important to me is Strategies to Life.

Well, sometimes they don’t work together too well, and I realize that’s because I see them as separate. I see my day to day, I see my spiritual. Most people see spiritual as just like chilling and floating and meditating and being calm and going through that. Then, yet, I’m out there, I’m working my butt off, I’m doing all these things, getting stuff together, getting things done, and all of a sudden I start realizing that I’ve compartmentalized my entire life.

So, what I’ve realized is that when it can look like the world’s against me, I need to get into the game. Meaning, I have to look at all the things that I did accomplish, see that as a success because it’s taking care of my human world. Then I have to realize that I am a spiritual being having a human experience and I kind of create the conflict by fighting against what’s the natural flow.

I knew I had these meetings, I knew I had things I had to get done, but my fantasy was “Oh, I’m going to spend all this time doing all these great things” and then not seeing what I did do this week or did get done this week as great accomplishments. My food truck is running beautifully, it has power, it passed it’s DOT, it’s gone through a whole workout and now I can feel confident going into the season knowing that it’s working just fine.

So, now, let’s back up a little bit. Am I more focused on that? But see, I have taken moments for myself. I have sat and had conversations with people, people come to me throughout the day and ask me “How do I fix, this?” or “How do I do that?” or “What can I do to get myself on track?”

These are things that I’ve learned, that when I’m sitting here trying to manipulate my world, I have to remember that manipulating my world is probably not going to go the way I want it to because I’m resisting. So, now that I know that I have accomplished all these things I’ve had a great week. I just have to know, focus on the next phase of things that I can get done. It doesn’t mean if I didn’t get my house cleaned, it’s not the end of the world. Right? I mean, we live in a dirty house sometimes, you don’t get your floor swept… but it’s not to the point where I can’t live in it. It’s just that I haven’t taken time to do certain things around the house. Again physical.

So, now, I have to shift gears. I always wake up. I always set my intentions in the morning even when I feel “Ok, I’m going to do this today.” I set intentions, but I always ask the Universe to bring to me the things that are a priority for my life. OK, well, that may not be what my plan was but the Universe knows my priorities and knows that I have to get things done and if I don’t do it now while I’m off, who’s going to do it?

I realized I kind of created it and it wasn’t a bad thing. I realized that I set intentions, I do proclamations, I do my ERACE when I have bad stuff happening, and I’ll talk about that in a segment. But right now, what I’m doing is taking moments to breathe. I was sitting here listening to beautiful music. I took time to just kind of reconnect to what was important to me and I did instrumental music. I didn’t do words, I just did instrumental and that’s where it brought me back to “yeah, you’re a spiritual being having a human experience, not a human trying to be spiritual.”

I have to shift that mindset because I was being very human, but it was really the other way around. I am a very spiritual being and it’s really important to look at the fact that you’re going to have to tackle life’s stuff. It doesn’t mean that I’m not caring for myself. I’m taking moments to listen to music…and a song is like three to four minutes. That’s not the of the world and you can have it playing in your headset or you can have it playing in your car. Make efforts to reconnect to what’s important to you and know that everything that I’m doing is spiritual. Everything I do is helping me in my life here. It’s not looking at one as less important, it’s looking at it as I’m a full rounded individual with a full rounded life.

That’s what I had to learn to do. I love my life and I love where I am. So, I have to realize, when it’s hectic, listen to instrumental music, make the moments to talk to somebody, have a conversation, even just saying “hello” to the clerk behind the counter when you’re buying a cup of coffee. Strike up a conversation and be kind and realize the rush is in you, not around you.

So, that’s how I kind of tackle the world’s against me because it’s not. It’s me against the world and so you kind of have to figure out where you pick your battles. I choose not to pick them, I just choose to a part of the amazing life that I’m creating.